Author Archives: April Kikky

“You haven’t seen a husband, the one you have is not your husband. I don’t recognize him as your husband. Don’t worry, God will provide you with a good man that will take care of you and your children”. She said.

What will you do when you are told this, and you are in good terms with your husband?

There is an adage that says ” if there is no crack in the wall,there will be no place for a lizard to hide”. Meaning the comment was born out of what the wife has told the other party or shall I say third party.

I don’t think anyone has the right to say such to a thing to another person. It is wrong, be it an elderly person or one’s mate,friend or parent.

A lot of people advice that third parties should not be involved in marriages, I agree. Am of the opinion that there are some peculiar issues in marriages that one cannot keep to one’s self. A situation where a father of 3 children suddenly turns gay.

Some are so heavy that if one doesn’t let it out,it may harm the person. Problem shared is half solved. It is indeed. We just need to be careful who we pour out our hearts to.

It’s not normal to make such a comment, you are not only divorcing on the wife’s behalf,you are matchmaking her to God knows who and also getting a new father for her children. Did she send you?

The New guy may even turn out worse that the current husband.

“O ye simple understand wisdom and ye fools, be ye of an understanding heart”. Proverbs 8:5.

My name is April,am married and I have two handsome sons. I grew up in a boarding house,though it was a 3-bedroom small apartment. We were ten children excluding my mum and her sister. My mum’s sister has a school and some of her busy friends brought their children over to stay while school was in session. The children went home for holidays,I stayed back with my mum when the holiday was short but when the holidays were long,I’d go to my grandmother’s place.

My dad died when I was quite little, my mum died two years ago.I learnt to do a lot since I was small because we all had our chores in the morning before going to school and in the evening after we came back from school.
Looking back at my childhood,I never acted out,I was always obedient and I had good grades. I had a positive outlook towards life. I made a promise to never smoke or do drugs.

Since my dad died quite early, and my mum didn’t remarry, I practically grew up with my mum and her sister. They were so strict,so many strict rules,and we were punished severely for violation of those rules. We were not allowed or couldn’t question their authority and we were made to adhere blindly to their expectation.

Though I turned out a good girl,no drugs, I was never comfortable,the house didn’t feel like a home,I was always longing for a better place,another setting.
I felt the only way I could really leave the house was by getting married.